The Great RSVP Debate: A Bar/Bat Mitzvah Guide | RSVP Cards

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If you’re planning for a Bar or Bat mitzvah, you’ve likely put a bit of thought into invitations. Should I keep it simple or give it some frill and flair? Should I design it myself or leave it to the experts? Are RSVP cards really necessary?

The questions and ensuing uncertainty can be maddening. We’d like to help you find some answers. In this post, we will explore the necessity behind the ever-controversial RSVP card.

Why Send an RSVP Card?

It has become more and more common to put RSVP information on the main Bar or Bat Mitzvah invitation. When the invitation is created this way, guests are usually asked to send their RSVP via email or through a related technology. Various apps, websites, email, and other technological resources allow families to create online RSVP management options that can save hosts time and effort.

Although these technological approaches may seem like the most convenient option when ordering or designing invitations, they are actually a big “no-no” according to proper invitation etiquette.

First and foremost, including a separate paper RSVP card along with an invitation allows all of your guests to formally respond to your event. Not all guests will have access to the Internet — especially older guests. Even if all of your guests have Internet access, some of them may not be tech-savvy enough to feel comfortable with a virtual RSVP. This can not only alienate some of your guests, it could even prevent them from attending altogether.

Second, it’s in your child’s best interest to include an RSVP card. Because RSVP cards come with everything guests needs to respond, they are much more likely to actually attend or send a gift if they cannot make the event.

Think of it this way: you could buy 75 RSVP cards with your invitations for less than a dollar each. This would represent 75 possible guests for less than 75 additional dollars. If you can get ten more guests to attend by sending the convenience of an RSVP card along with a stamped and addressed envelope, your child could receive an additional $360+ in gifts, assuming a modest $36 gift from each guest that is unable to attend.

Because they increase the likelihood of guests responding, RSVP cards also allow you to know how many guests to prepare for, which affects seating arrangements, food preparation, the number of favors needed, etc.

Including an RSVP card also allows you to prepare personalized table place cards. This extra note of personalization makes guests feel valued and leads to a more enjoyable experience for all. Also consider including a short, informal note to make guests feel extra special.

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The reasons listed above are only a few of the many reasons why you should include an RSVP card with your invitation. To find the right card for your occasion, browse our large collection of Bar and Bat Mitzvah invitation cards and accessories. If you’d like some personal assistance, let us know. We’ll be more than happy to help you find the perfect invitation!

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